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Saturday, December 6, 2008

Qualities in a Spouse


Qualities in a Spouse (Potential Spouse or Existing Spouse): applicable to both, husband and wife

Everyone likes to have a perfect, happy and permanent marriage and married life. To a large extent it may depend on the qualities in the existing or potential spouse, qualities in husband as well as qualities in wife. With good qualities in the marriage partners, the marriage can work wonderfully.

As a ready reference, given below is a list of some 75 qualities (and disqualifications) one may look out for in an existing or potential spouse. They are arranged simply alphabetically and therefore, order of their presentation does not signify their order of importance.

Add more those you can think of. Then, arrange them in order of your preference by paired comparison method. Take the prospective candidate and check him/her against these qualities/disqualifications. Can be even more precise by rating him/her on a scale 0 to 5 after attaching weightages to the qualities.

The List
  1. A person who will help you to make the marriage work
  2. Acceptance of the partner with his/her qualities as well as flaws
  3. Affectionate
  4. Age
  5. Aggressive/Submissive/Assertive
  6. Allows flexibility to spouse (in food and drinks selection, dresses, job etc)
  7. Angry and shouts
  8. Bragging type
  9. Can be a good parent
  10. Caring
  11. Commitment
  12. Common sense
  13. Communicative with spouse and those with whom he comes in contact
  14. Considerate
  15. Discourteous/Rude
  16. Distrustful
  17. Does not get angry
  18. Dominating
  19. Drinks (social drinker likely to get addict or already habitual drinker)
  20. Take drugs/Drug addict
  21. Earnings
  22. Education
  23. Ethical behavior
  24. Fake/Pretends
  25. Family background
  26. Flexible
  27. Friendship
  28. Gossipy
  29. Height
  30. Helping
  31. Honesty/Genuineness
  32. Humility; not arrogant and full of him/herself
  33. Hygiene
  34. Immature
  35. Insults
  36. Intelligence
  37. Jealous
  38. Job
  39. Kindness
  40. Languages
  41. Lazy
  42. Looks
  43. Looks more at qualities than the flaws
  44. Loving
  45. Loyalty towards spouse (no infidelity)
  46. Macho type
  47. Mature
  48. Nationality
  49. Normal health
  50. Not a miser
  51. Not hysterical
  52. Open and sharing (with spouse)
  53. Patient and understanding
  54. Personal responsibility of spouse, children and home
  55. Political
  56. Potential to grow professionally
  57. Pronunciations in different languages (required to deal with people in the society)
  58. Reckless spender
  59. Respectful to spouse and other members of family and society
  60. Rigid
  61. Romantic
  62. Secretive, hides things from spouse
  63. Smokes
  64. Social, has good friends in adequate numbers
  65. Stable (not blow hot blow cold type- changing colors and moods every now and then)
  66. Street smart
  67. Supporting
  68. Suspicious
  69. Takes interest in many things other than profession
  70. Tells lies/Makes stories
  71. Tidy
  72. Trustworthy
  73. Truthful
  74. Unproductive
  75. Uses assertive behavior at appropriate places and occasions (not aggressive)
If you can think of more (qualities or disqualifications), please put them up in the comments column.

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